There are five phases you can expect to go through when dealing with a broken relationship. It’s important to understand where you’re at, and to know that how you are feeling is all just part of a natural, albeit painful process.

Phase one is denial. This is where you convince yourself (or try to convince yourself) that your breakup didn’t really occur. This also manifests itself as you waiting for the person to sit down with you at dinner or pick you up at work. In this stage, there are often no tears because the reality hasn’t sunk in yet or you are not accepting or even acknowledging your loss.

Phase two is anger. This can be directed towards the world, at your ex and at yourself. In this stage you often want to get even with your ex or you act out towards others who try to help you.

Phase three is the bargaining stage. This can actually come before you split definitively as well. Here is where you try to get him or her back by making deals or begging the person to return. You could also be bargaining with God or some higher power in this stage. . . “If you bring him/her back to me, I promise I’ll go to church every Sunday. . .” This phase includes a great deal of pleading, wishing and praying for things to go back to normal.

Phase four is depression. When dealing with a broken relationship you will probably feel extremely sad or completely overwhelmed with hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, feeling sorry for yourself, and mourning. Here, any unacknowledged emotions have caught up with you and they’re in full force. You see a different future than what you may be used to seeing and feel defenseless and numb.

Phase five is acceptance. This is where you accept the mistakes you have made and the results of those mistakes. this is where you accept that the person is out of your life, or at least will not play the same role as they have until recently. It’s important to note that acceptance is not resignation. You are not giving up in this stage. On the contrary, it is only now that you can start to gradually build your goals for the future and leave your relationship in the past.

Eventually, you will get to the point that you can appreciate what you have learned in this tough period. It’s also a good idea to get help or have a good friend that you can confide in regularly. Remember that you are not alone by any means and that you will survive, as have thousands of others when dealing with broken relationship grief.

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It is never easy to deal with a relationship breakup. Whether you are the one who ended it, or the one who was broken up with, it can be tough. Each side has to deal with different emotions. If you are dealing with a relationship breakup, there are certain things that you need to be able to do. By working on these three things, you can be sure that you will deal with the break up as best as you can.

Dealing with your Emotions

Most people will try to suppress their emotions right after a break up. Those who broke up with someone will act happy or in some cases; sad and lonely, while those who are broken up with will try to act as if they are ok. It is ok to feel sad, and it is ok to feel upset.

You need to deal with your emotions, and understand your emotions. Pushing your emotions to the back of your mind will simply stall the process. You cannot forget your emotions. Because you will simply deal with them at a later time. Ignoring your emotions will keep you from dealing with your break up. Confront how you feel, and allow yourself to feel that way.

Surround Yourself with Friends and Family

You need to surround yourself with friends and family when you are dealing with a break up. Your friends will help to comfort you when you feel sad. They will also help to take your mind off of the situation, when you need to start thinking of other things. Friends and family can be the perfect emotion regulator.

Friends and family will not let yourself get too upset, or too sad. They will still allow you to feel the emotions that you need to feel to get over the situation. They are the perfect people to lean on when you are dealing with a break up.

Work On Getting Over It

It can be easy for people to wallow in their sadness. They do not want to deal with the situation, or with how they feel. You need to avoid this by recognizing the self pity and dwelling in it, to the point of exclusion of all other things and people.You simply need to start thinking about moving on. You need to stat thinking about your situation, and what you may lose out on by dwelling on the break up.

In Summary

You need to confront your emotions, and you need to deal with them. Don’t be one of those people who push all their emotions to the backburner. Sure it’s nice to avoid the siutuation, for a short while, but the sooner you face it, the more likely you will begin to get a handle on it.

Don’t forget your friends and family are there to help you during your emotional difficulty. Rely on them for your foundation of getting over the breakup. It is important for you to work on getting over the break up, as you need to be able to move on.

These three simple, yet difficult to perform steps, will help you to properly deal with your relationship breakup. The Magic of Making Up is the solution.

When it’s over – it’s over! But overcoming emotional pain from a break up in a relationship is a difficult thing to deal with, for both you and your ex.

 
After a break up there follows a natural period of hurt feelings and emotions, and a great deal of personal strength is required to survive.

Emotional pain is one of the worst kinds, and that sick, aching feeling in the chest, and pit of your stomach can feel like it’s never, ever going to subside.

It will leave you eventually. 

It’s part of the healing process, something you will have to endure, but thank goodness, there are shortcuts to overcoming emotional pain. You are not the first couple to suffer a relationship break up and you will not be the last. You should take solace in the fact that you and your partner will survive, and that you’ll both soon be moving forward.

This may seem like a daunting task, especially with the pain you’re feeling now. There is a huge void in your life which cannot be easily filled. I write from experience, having survived divorce from a 32 year marriage. I know first hand what emotional pain is, and how it feels.
 
I lived with it for a full year before I decided enough was enough!
 
When you are faced with the trauma of trying to get over a break up, there are a number of things you can do to speed up the process :

1) BREAK ALL CONTACT! Do not have any contact with your ex at this time. In all probability you are both very emotional, and in this state it is so easy to say or do things that you will later regret. It is much better to have no contact at all, than finding yourself in situations that throw up confrontation, which inevitably leads to more hostility and bitterness.

2) HAVE A CLEAROUT! Remove all reminders of your ex from the house, clothes, photographs, CDs and all other personal belongings. Don’t stop at the house, clear your phone and your emails so that there is nothing you can see anywhere to remind you of your ex. This is a positive statement of letting go, and ensuring there are no emotional landmines to negotiate.

3) SPEAK TO SOMEONE! Don’t bottle up the pain. Breaking up with a loved one is emotionally the same as the death of one. Speak to a friend, someone who is a good listener, someone you can trust when you speak in confidence. They will understand that you are hurting, and that it’s OK to break down a little and cry as needed, and they will support you.

4) ACCEPT, AND MOVE ON! Now it’s time to start thinking about YOU, not your ex. Socialise, get out with friends. The worse thing you can do right now is spend too much time on your own, with nothing but your thoughts for company. Do little things that cheer you up, get yourself a new hairdo, buy a new outfit, concentrate on a hobby, or channel your energy into doing something you always wanted to do, but never did.

At this point, you should use whatever support is available to you. This can be friends, family, and other loved ones that can provide an emotional support net for you. Even though you have done what you can to soften the blow of the break up, you will still face turbulence. As a result you will need all of the help you can get to survive the emotional pain.

This advice is intended to help in overcoming emotional pain when you are resigned to the fact that the relationship is over. However, if you still hold the slightest belief that the relationship might be retrieved, check out The Magic of Making Up for tips on how to get your ex back, with confidence and dignity, and how to play it cool for a positive outcome.

If you are in the process of surviving a break up, it probably seems like there is no hope.

But there is always hope.

The first thing you have to do is decide whether the relationship really is over, or whether it’s just a temporary situation. Many people find that their relationship grows even stronger after a temporary break up.

But there are other times, when you know for certain that it is over and you need to go about mourning the relationship. Your ex was probably the person who you were closest to in the whole world. So now, what do you do?

The answers to this and many more relationship problems are in The Magic of Making Up

The first thing you have to consider is if getting back together after a break up is something that both of you want to do or is it just one sided?

If it is something that the both of you want then you might very well be able to work it out. But remember, it will take a commitment from both of you and you will have to work together to overcome the problems that caused the break up in the first place.

Each of you have to be able to concede that you were wrong about certain things. You have to be able to admit that fact without trying to justify everything. When you try to justify mistakes you made you are really just making excuses. Just be brave enough to admit it and move on to correct it. It will likely take both of you working together to overcome your mistakes. It is a partnership that both of you are going to have to be invested in 100% but the commitment level from both of you needs to be totally equal.

If it’s one sided and you are the only one who is truly interested in getting back together after a break up, then you may be fighting an uphill battle. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try, it just means that you will have a face a tough time trying to make the relationship work.

It is hard enough getting back together after a break up when the two of you are working for it. Getting back together after a break up on your own may just take a lot more patience and perseverance. Don’t get me wrong, it will be difficult no matter what. What is going to help you succeed is making sure that you have a good support system. If you have friends and family who are not only encouraging you but helping you, your chances of success grow as you continue trying to get back together after a break up.

The Magic of Making Up has all the answers you need to win your ex back.