by T Dub Jackson, author of The Magic Of Making Up System

You smell the smoke, hear the crackle of a flame and start to swoon from the searing heat.

and…

You suspect there’s about to be a raging fire. But the fire and carnage you fear won’t be from any material possessions lost, but from something much more precious, a once loving relationship going up in flames.

No matter what issue set your fire ablaze, many of us don’t know where or how to begin applying the water to put the fire out.

In fact…

Unlike a real fire where a fireman first looks to find, attack and cool the source of the fire (if possible).

Many times attacking the center of the heat is the WRONG approach to take when trying to extinguish our relationship problems and fires.

For example, let’s imagine that since this ‘recession’ your relationship has flamed up some worrisome financial fires.

Not too hard to imagine these days?

These may start as little brush fires, small issues and arguments over how and where money is being spent…or not spent.

Then, maybe because of the heat and pressure of these financial fires one partner starts ‘escaping’ more than is healthy for the relationship.

He escapes into TV, Video Games, Alcohol, Cyber Porn…or worse?

Now…what do we have?

We’ve got two fires smoldering away and soon to be a third because the other partner is starting to feel lonely and isolated.

Can you almost feel the pressure?

Feel it coming to a boil?

Now with three fires off to a crackling start there’s even greater risk of fire and damage spreading to other areas.

So? Just which fire do we put out first?

Our financial fire? Our financial blaze seems pretty tough to extinguish right now and not likely to die soon. So maybe we should start with the escapism? That seems like an easy fire to put out…IF you’re not the one escaping!

…and try telling someone that’s feeling lonely and isolated that “they should just snap out of it” is like throwing fuel into the fire.

So where do we begin when we don’t see any good place to start? And we finally realize that trying to stomp out all our blazes at once actually spreads the fire?…FASTER!

The answer is…

Unlike fighting a REAL fire, we start where there IS NO FIRE.

Yes, start where there is absolutely no smoke, no heat and no flame.

What we need to do is stop focusing on the problem(s) and focus on where we still have passion…even if it’s just a little.

Find even the tiniest things you both enjoy doing together, ACTIVELY put your problems aside and begin to rebuild the passion between you.

And do you know what invariably happens? Often once you’ve rekindled the passion between you…the PROBLEMS will often work themselves out.

The fires extinguish themselves.

Here’s how it may play out using our example :

Tom and Cindy both love cooking together.

They both actively decide to let their problems go and NOT worry about them for awhile, but to start by cooking dinner together and EATING together at the dinner table…EVERY night.

Often because they’ve had such a great time cooking and eating together…they play some cards or monopoly afterwards and share some laughs and have a little fun.

Now, because Cindy isn’t feeling so isolated because Tom’s always watching TV or surfing the web…

That little bit of fun turns into love making a little more often.

Which in part…leads to…

Tom starting to feel better, finds new confidence,and as his confidence builds… Tom gets more assertive about finding work.

Soon…

Tom lands what maybe not the best job in the world, but one that relieves a lot of the financial pressure until he can find his perfect fit.

And before your very eyes…

Where Tom and Cindy’s relationship was about to burst into flames…

Now, they are rising from the rubble with a stronger and more fire proof marriage than ever before.

The moral of the story is that with enough PASSION couples can overcome most any problem including affairs, drug use,even death in the family.

But when there is very little passion even the tiniest problems…become big, out of control, blazing fires.

Now if you’re reading this, but feel that an out of control fire has already ‘gutted’ and put an end to your relationship. You may find it comforting to know that there may be a second chance for you?

I’ve made some amazing new breakthroughs in the human love, bonding and REBONDING process.

Many of these breakthroughs are just as counterintuitive as the technique I’ve just handed you here.

I’ve made a special video with you in mind where I share one of my counterintuitive rebonding techniques.

You’re invited to watch here:

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While I’m a little bumbly and no Brad Pitt on camera…

…the video has been watched over 893,000 times (rated 4 1/2 stars) and it’s rare for a day to go by where I don’t receive a really heart warming note from someone that has put their relationship back together after going through hell and fearing they’d never find their way back.

Hope it helps you too:-)

T Dub Jackson
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This article tells you how to save your marriage.
 
First, you need to identify the trouble in your relationship. Some common troubles include:
 
· Money concerns
· Child rearing difficulties
· Lack of sex
· Lack of communication
· Loss of identity
 
And, of course, there are many others. You may discover that there is one main problem or you may identify several smaller problems that are eating away at your marriage.

When you identify the problem or problems that are at the root of your marriage troubles, you will be able to move on to the next step which is close, personal interaction.

In this step, you will need to be open to extensive conversation. If you have not had a lot of open communication during your marriage, you may want to consider counseling in order to facilitate the personal interaction that is key to this step.

If you really want to save your marriage, you will set aside time to work on your marriage issues every single day. You could set aside some time like after the children go to bed or you could decide to take a walk after dinner every day for just the two of you. But, you should plan to get back in touch with each other. A daily habit of quality time with your spouse is very important.

Take some “romantic time” each week. For some couples, this means reinstating a “date night” every week. On Tuesdays, for instance, you get a sitter and go out for a picnic or walk around the mall. As you can see, this doesn’t have to involve wine and roses every week, but a romantic time that you can look forward to all week is essential.

As you spend time together being romantic and discussing your problems, you must have an open mind toward what your partner is telling you. You need to understand that a lot of the problems in your marriage are caused by – get this – you! Until you really listen to your partner, you are not going to be able to effect the kind of personal change necessary to save your marriage.

You need to have faith in your partner. You need to give him or her the benefit of the doubt. You need to believe that the marriage still can and will work. You also need to believe that your partner is still essentially the same person he or she was when you married them. If you cannot have faith in your partner and in your marriage, you might as well give up now.

Finally, you have to be open to forgiveness. If your partner has made mistakes – even major ones – you must be able to forgive. If you insist that there are things that cannot be forgiven, there is no hope for your marriage.

Everyone makes mistakes. Some people make big mistakes. If that person makes a genuine apology – which includes acts of contrition and an effort to change – they deserve forgiveness.

Hopefully this article gave you some answers on how to save your marriage.

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It’s quite normal for a marriage to go through cycles, and arguments will happen from time to time. Its how you deal with those arguments and disagreements that dictates the health of your relationship.

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